Navigating Grief and Gratitude this November
Grief and gratitude are not opposites; they are two sides of the same deep love. The presence of grief is a direct testament to the richness of the gift you were given. It could have been the laughter, the traditions, and the history you shared with something or someone. Instead of seeing the loss as only pain, acknowledge that the absence is a painful reminder of the gift of their presence. This duality requires moving beyond "either/or" thinking. You can allow yourself to feel the wave of sorrow and give yourself space to cry or sit in the silence and simultaneously anchor yourself in thanks for the life, the community, and the spiritual strength that remains. This practice respects the full complexity of your heart.
For our community, this navigation is often rooted in resilience and connection. You can honor the person who is gone by establishing new rituals of remembrance, sharing their favorite stories, or dedicating a specific part of the holiday to their legacy. At the same time, intentionally shift your focus to the loved ones who are still at the table, expressing gratitude for their current presence and support. By giving both emotions space, you draw on ancestral strength, prevent grief from becoming all-consuming, and allow gratitude to ground you in the enduring power of love..
Wellness tips for Grief & Gratitude
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Honor your emotions. Allow yourself to feel the full spectrum of your grief—sadness, anger, confusion, or even temporary joy—without judgment. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Connect & Share
Reach out to your family, friends, or a professional. Sharing stories, tears, or laughter connects you to the love that remains. Do not isolate yourself; lean into your trusted circle for support.
Practice Self-Care
Prioritize your physical and mental wellness. This means setting boundaries, maintaining healthy routines, getting adequate rest, and engaging in activities that genuinely bring you peace (even if only for a moment).
Lean on Faith & Spirituality
Draw strength from your spiritual beliefs and practices. Gentle reflection, prayer, or meditation can be powerful tools for grounding yourself and finding a sense of hope and continuity.
Wellness supplements for our community
Podcast: "Therapy for Black Girls"
Recommended Episode: "Grief During Healing (and a little bit of Self-Care)"
Book: "Grief Is Love: Living with Loss Without Letting Go" by Marisa Renee Lee
Song/Album: "A Seat at the Table" by Solange